Educational Blogs from Our Mental Health Therapists

Learn about common challenges, including depression, anxiety, relationships,
trauma, and more, written by Monkton, MD therapists!

Burnout, Anxiety, Resources, Business Owners Melissa Wesner Burnout, Anxiety, Resources, Business Owners Melissa Wesner

How Companies Can Partner with Local Therapy Practices to Improve Their Employees’ Mental Health

Partnering with local counseling practices can be a valuable way to improve the mental health of your employees. These collaborations help your employees on an individual basis while helping the productivity and health of the company as a whole. Here are a few ways that companies can collaborate with counseling practices to support your employees’ mental health.

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Burnout, Anxiety, Mindfulness, Business Owners Melissa Wesner Burnout, Anxiety, Mindfulness, Business Owners Melissa Wesner

Ways Companies Can Prioritize Their Employees’ Mental Health at Work to Improve Company Morale

Mental health is a crucial aspect of overall well-being, and it is important for companies to prioritize the mental health of their employees. Demonstrating the importance of employees’ mental wellness requires companies to take visible action.  Here are a few ways that companies can do this.

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Anxiety, Depression, Parenting, Resources Melissa Wesner Anxiety, Depression, Parenting, Resources Melissa Wesner

Post-Weaning Depression and Its Effects on a New Mom's Mental Health

Shortly after I started weaning my toddler, sadness engulfed me. I felt like melted ice cream, honestly. This led me down a rabbit hole of reading. I am sure that you are joining me in my surprise that as a therapist, a former educator, and a mother who reads every parenting article I can get my hands on, I had never heard of post-weaning depression. Well, I think that the answer is two-fold. From what I can gather, there is limited research on post-weaning depression. This blog is centered on raising awareness on post-weaning depression, along with an encouragement for greater societal attention and research.

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Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources, Anxiety Melissa Wesner Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources, Anxiety Melissa Wesner

Supporting Your Child with ADHD Through Promoting Self-Esteem and Capability

Supporting your child in effectively managing their symptoms of ADHD, while celebrating them and accepting them for all that they are, will aid long term success and elevated self-esteem. This will promote self-confidence, self-acceptance, and assurance that can handle all that life throws their way. 

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Anxiety, Resources, International Clients, Biases Melissa Wesner Anxiety, Resources, International Clients, Biases Melissa Wesner

Understanding Emotional Struggles from a Cultural Lens

I have never felt so Chinese before I came to the U.S. As a matter of fact, I rarely mentioned the word “Chinese” in my daily life while I was in China–I never had to, given that everyone around me was Chinese. Cultural diversity in the U.S. has given me a chance to reflect on my relationship with my own culture, and more importantly, what is the relationship that I want to develop with my own culture. As a therapist, my experiences with clients tell me that culture plays a significant role in people’s mental wellbeing, especially in U.S. society. In this article, I will share some examples of when culture is at the center of people’s mental struggles.

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How to Best Support Your Highly Sensitive Child

“I think she/he is just too sensitive,” some parents complain. Indeed, some children are more sensitive than others. But does high sensitivity only bring trouble? Who gets to decide what is the right amount of sensitivity and what is too much? Those difficult questions take us into an important research area–HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). If you get frustrated with yourself or/and your child over their high sensitivity, this article is going to help you learn about highly sensitive people and how to best support your child.

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Recognizing and Treating Compassion Fatigue & Burnout with Helping Professions

Our dedication to others makes us well-suited for positions within helping professions; whether you’re a fellow therapist, a medical provider, a first responder, a humanitarian aid worker, the ability to meet humans with unconditional positive regard and empathic understanding is key. Compassion fatigue, secondary trauma, and burnout can affect the best of caregivers.

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The Internal Fight Against Anxiety and Depression: a CBT Based Coping Skill

This is a recommendation I provide all my clients experiencing anxiety and depression, to put up a “fight” with their negative thoughts. I do not want this internal dialogue to be in contempt, but rather provide your mind with the alternative perspective- one that a parent may provide a child. You are the parent. You are in charge. Your anxious thoughts are your inner child. Your job- and it takes practice- is to explain to the “child” why their concerns are not actuality or that should they become actualized that they- you- can handle it. This models the value of thought reframing and prevention of catastrophizing. So here are a few examples.

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Anxiety, Highly-Sensitive Person Melissa Wesner Anxiety, Highly-Sensitive Person Melissa Wesner

4 Strategies for Managing Negative or Self-Critical Thoughts

Sometimes the thoughts that pop into our heads are ones that make us worry about the future or feel bad about ourselves. And some of these thoughts can be particularly irritating in that they like to stick around or pop up frequently. When we’ve experienced certain thoughts repeatedly, there can be a point in which we actually start believing that they are true, even when they most definitely are not. If you’ve ever struggled with depression or anxiety, it’s likely that you’ve experienced lots of these annoying thoughts.  If you’re a human, it’s 100% likely that you’ve experienced some unhelpful, self-critical thoughts too. 

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Depression, Anxiety Melissa Wesner Depression, Anxiety Melissa Wesner

“我怕被诊断出抑郁症!”—理诊断给您造成更大的心理压力吗?

“你对这个诊断怎么看?”我几乎每接待一位新来访者,都要问他们这个问题。尽管心理健康服务者早已对心理障碍的诊断习以为常,但每一位来访者经过初步咨询,得知自己所得的心理障碍是什么的时候,每个人的反应都是不同的,这背后是不同的想法、感受和经历。

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Depression, Anxiety Melissa Wesner Depression, Anxiety Melissa Wesner

Does Receiving a Diagnosis From a Therapist Cause Mental Health Stigma?

“How do you feel about receiving a diagnosis?” That is a question I almost always ask when doing an intake with a new client. Although diagnoses are something therapists deal with on a daily basis, everyone may have different feelings, thoughts, and experiences around diagnoses, especially when they receive one from a professional during the intake meeting.

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Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources, Anxiety Melissa Wesner Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources, Anxiety Melissa Wesner

Ten Children's Books for Your Anxious Elementary Schooler That Promote Coping Skills

Coping skills are adaptive actions that people take to bring themselves comfort and control.

Many of the books listed feature coping skills being taught within therapy sessions. These include the utilization of breath, mindfulness, mindset reframing, utilizing support systems, and acknowledging worry rather than pushing it away.

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Parenting, Children & Teens, Anxiety Melissa Wesner Parenting, Children & Teens, Anxiety Melissa Wesner

Signs and Symptoms That Indicate That Your Child May Be Experiencing Anxiety

Are you worried that your child is too worried? That in and of itself may suggest that scheduling an appointment with a children’s therapist is not a bad idea, but if you are still on the fence please read on. Everyone worries! Research suggests that in part, it’s evolutionary, a function of survival. As our environmental factors have changed in time, so have our reasons for anxiety. Anxiety stems from biological factors, psychological factors such as temperament, and environmental factors. The question is: when does worrying become more harmful than helpful?

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Anxiety Melissa Wesner Anxiety Melissa Wesner

When You Don't Implement Healthy Coping Strategies Between Your Therapy Sessions

In the counseling world, we’re big on teaching people new coping strategies that they can use to replace old, unhealthy ways of coping or to manage symptoms that are brought on by depression, anxiety, trauma, and other mental health conditions.  Implementing new coping strategies can be quite the challenge, and it’s something that we see often as therapists.  In counseling sessions, we’re often introducing new coping strategies, but we find that these coping strategies are not necessarily getting implemented between sessions. 

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如何应对说外语带来的焦虑?

手心出汗、心跳加速、大脑中却一片空白……很多人在说外语时都有这些紧张不安的表现。尤其是当你忽然被提问,一瞬间无论怎么搜肠刮肚,也找不到合适的词表达。也许你眼前的人正一脸困惑,而你则感到颜面尽失……

对大多数人来说,用母语交流就像吃饭睡觉一样轻而易举,而相比之下,用外语来沟通,真的更费脑子——除了要费尽心思寻找合适的表达方式,还要克服心理上的焦虑。这个焦虑有个专门的词,叫“外语焦虑”(foreign language anxiety,简称FLA)。

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How to Cope with Foreign Language Anxiety as a Non-Native English Speaker

Sweaty hands, racing heartbeat, mind going blank, uneasy, nervous, embarrassed… If you speak English as a second language, the above might not sound unfamiliar to you, especially if you are caught on the spot, struggling to figure out what words to use to save your face. Nevertheless, the person in front of you gets more and more confused…

While speaking one's native language seems so natural and easy, trying to command a foreign language requires extra mental resources — finding the right words and calming foreign language anxiety (FLA).

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