Educational Blogs from Our Mental Health Therapists

Learn about common challenges, including depression, anxiety, relationships,
trauma, and more, written by Monkton, MD therapists!

Ten Strategies for Professionals Facing Secondhand Trauma

Working in fields such as healthcare, social work, or emergency response often exposes professionals to the raw realities of trauma. While their focus is on providing support and care to those directly affected, the toll of bearing witness to suffering can manifest in the caregivers themselves. Here are ten practical tips for professionals navigating the complexities of secondhand trauma. 

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Trauma and PTSD, First Responders Melissa Wesner Trauma and PTSD, First Responders Melissa Wesner

Unseen Wounds: Shedding Light on the Effects of Secondhand Trauma

Secondary trauma, otherwise known as vicarious trauma and second-hand PTSD, refers to a form of distress or trauma that's experienced indirectly by hearing details of or witnessing the aftermath of a traumatic experience by another person. Second hand trauma may be invisible, but its impact is real and far-reaching. 

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Relationships, Trauma and PTSD, Resources Melissa Wesner Relationships, Trauma and PTSD, Resources Melissa Wesner

Ten Ways that Therapists Can Support Survivors of Sexual Assault

Navigating the aftermath of sexual assault can be a daunting journey, laden with complex emotions and challenges. Yet, within the therapeutic setting, there exists a powerful toolkit designed to guide survivors toward healing and empowerment. Through a combination of compassionate support and evidence-based techniques, therapists play a pivotal role in helping survivors cope with the aftermath of trauma. 

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Relationships, Trauma and PTSD, Resources Melissa Wesner Relationships, Trauma and PTSD, Resources Melissa Wesner

Unmasking Shame: The Hidden Impact of Sexual Assault on Survivors

Sexual assault is a harrowing experience that leaves deep emotional scars on its survivors. Among the myriad of emotions they grapple with, shame stands out as one of the most pervasive and debilitating. Shame, with its roots in societal perceptions and self-blame, adds layers of complexity to the already daunting process of recovery for survivors. 

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Tending to Your Mental Health in the Aftermath of the Baltimore Francis Scott Key Bridge Collapse

Marylanders woke up to the devastating news about the Key Bridge collapsing into the Patapsco River in Baltimore, MD this morning. This tragic event will have ripples of impact for some time to come.  If you live or work in the Greater Baltimore area, and you’ve been impacted directly or indirectly by today’s news, here are some strategies that you can use to cope and tend to your mental health. 

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In the Aftermath of Tragedy: Resources for Those Affected by the Baltimore Francis Scott Key Bridge Collapse

Marylanders woke up to the devastating news about the Key Bridge collapse this morning.  No doubt, this news has hit home for the people who live and work in the Greater Baltimore area.  Many are empathizing with those who have been directly impacted while also reflecting on just how many times they too have used this bridge. 

When tragedy strikes, we may find that we need supports and resources that we’ve never needed before. If that is you or someone you know, we’re including several local resources that you can use immediately for yourself or others who are grappling with the impact of this event. 

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Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner

Spoiler Alert: Your Body Isn’t Broken!

If you’re like many of the women I talk to, you believe that your body is broken because it’s doing some strange things that you just don’t understand. Perhaps the doctors don’t even understand and have told you that there’s nothing wrong with you. You, however, know your body, and you know that something isn’t right.  You may have even come to believe that YOU are broken!

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Common Experiences During and After Brainspotting

Brainspotting is a form of therapy that is gaining popularity among mental health professionals. It is an innovative approach that uses eye positions to help people process and heal from emotional and psychological traumas. If you are considering this type of therapy, you may be wondering what to expect after your Brainspotting sessions. In this blog post, we'll explore some of the possible outcomes during or after Brainspotting therapy.

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How Brainspotting Intensives Help with Improving Your Mental Health and Accelerating Healing

Brainspotting is a therapeutic approach that can help individuals process and heal from emotional and psychological traumas. Brainspotting intensives, which are extended and focused therapy sessions, offer clients a unique opportunity to delve deeper into their healing process. In this blog post, we'll explore some of the reasons why you should consider attending a Brainspotting intensive.

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Anxiety, Burnout, Trauma and PTSD, Resources Melissa Wesner Anxiety, Burnout, Trauma and PTSD, Resources Melissa Wesner

Innovative Ways Hospital Systems Can Support Nurses' Mental Health

Nurses play a critical role in the healthcare system, providing essential care to patients and supporting doctors and other healthcare professionals. However, the job of being a nurse can be extremely demanding, both physically and mentally, which can lead to burnout, stress, and other mental health issues. In this blog, we will discuss some ways in which hospital systems can support the mental health of their nurses.

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Anxiety, Burnout, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner Anxiety, Burnout, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner

The Unseen Mental Health Struggles Faced by Nurses Working in Healthcare

Nursing is a challenging and demanding profession that requires a high level of skill and commitment. Nurses are responsible for the care of patients, often in highly stressful and emotionally charged situations. While the focus is on the care of patients, it is important not to overlook the mental health challenges faced by nurses themselves. In this blog post, we will explore some of the mental health challenges faced by nurses and the impact they can have.

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Recognizing and Treating Compassion Fatigue & Burnout with Helping Professions

Our dedication to others makes us well-suited for positions within helping professions; whether you’re a fellow therapist, a medical provider, a first responder, a humanitarian aid worker, the ability to meet humans with unconditional positive regard and empathic understanding is key. Compassion fatigue, secondary trauma, and burnout can affect the best of caregivers.

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Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner

Self-Expression & Trauma: What to Do When You Feel Stuck In "I Don't Know"

Unresolved trauma may be a reason people seek out therapy. Trauma occurs when we experience an unexpected event that is threatening to our survival. Trauma impacts our brain, our nervous system, our body and the myriad ways these parts interact in order to regulate our whole selves.

There are biophysiological reasons for why this not knowing occurs. It is okay and your body is doing what it was designed to do. I will offer a very simplified explanation below as to what happens in the brain and body.

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Brainspotting, Trauma and PTSD, Resources Melissa Wesner Brainspotting, Trauma and PTSD, Resources Melissa Wesner

Learning to Trust Yourself with Brainspotting: Tips From a Trauma Therapist

When someone has been impacted by a traumatic experience, they may begin to experience emotions, thoughts, physical sensations, and reactions that were not typical for them prior to the traumatic event.  As a result, people begin to believe that there is something wrong with them.  This is where I like to remind people that they are having normal responses to an unusual circumstance. 

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Relationships, Depression, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner Relationships, Depression, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner

Repair, Not Re-Traumatize: Beginning to Heal Relationship Wounds

“Can he/she just move on?” People sometimes get frustrated about their partner’s unforgiveness. They have to tiptoe around their partner, trying to avoid their raw spots. “Ever since then, she has become super sensitive about my interactions with other women on social media,” said someone who discussed his wife’s “overaction” after he entered into an affair years ago. 

The truth is, without genuine emotional connection between both parties, without corrective emotional response from the injured person, without actions that met the deep needs that have been ignored for so long,  “moving-on” would be extremely hard, if not impossible.

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Catching the Bullet: How to Practice Nonviolent Communication with Your Partner

In wedding vows, we promise that we are going to “love”, “cherish”, “support, etc.” our partners through all the ups and downs. It might sound weird to promise “not to use violence” to our partners, probably because people rarely consider themselves capable of getting violent with their significant others.

Although we all dream of a peaceful home, we can shoot word bullets at our loved ones without even noticing. That's why it is crucial to begin by recognizing the bullets.

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COVID-19, Depression, Grief and Loss, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner COVID-19, Depression, Grief and Loss, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner

How to Begin to Heal From Loss During the COVID-19 Pandemic

Counseling for anxiety, depression and grief sharply increased since the pandemic, and it has been more common for us to acknowledge that we may be in pain, in sorrow, and in grief. Since the outburst of COVID-19, the pandemic has not only created stress, anxiety and uncertainty about the future, but it has also made us feel some type of loss. The healing process takes time and effort for us to heal globally and individually.

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Anxiety, Burnout, COVID-19, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner Anxiety, Burnout, COVID-19, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner

Trauma and How it Has Affected Teaching During the COVID-19 Pandemic

Teaching students under normal circumstances is challenging. Teachers juggle many roles as they motivate, engage and develop personal connections with their students to keep their students’ minds open to learning and developing. But what happens when the students and teachers alike are going through an overwhelming stressor as with the current pandemic? How does the situation affect student behavior, motivation and academic achievement? Here is a brief explanation of the mechanisms of stressors leading to trauma, as well as strategies to navigate the road ahead.

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Anxiety, Burnout, COVID-19, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner Anxiety, Burnout, COVID-19, Trauma and PTSD Melissa Wesner

An Ode to Teachers and School Staff

To my dear teachers and school staff,

There are so many things about this school year that are different. Dealing with rampant behavioral issues among your students. Dealing with administrators who may be short fused as they deal with a plethora of Covid related issues. Dealing with expectations from staff and parents that are not realistically achievable. These are some of the issues that have been arising. In all of this, you have received minimal training and have no previous experience with this. This is not what you signed up for!

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