Educational Blogs from Our Mental Health Therapists

Learn about common challenges, including depression, anxiety, relationships,
trauma, and more, written by Monkton, MD therapists!

DIY Creative Stress-Relief Crafts for Children: Stress Ball for Reducing Anxiety

Many kids enjoy using stress balls as a fidget tool to help with focus and concentration. But did you know that you can also use a stress ball to intentionally reduce anxiety? This can be accomplished by focusing on the distinction between feelings of a tensed hand when you squeeze your stress ball and a completely relaxed hand when you release the grip of your stress ball. Go ahead and try out this fun craft that you and your child can use together!

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Mindfulness Resources for Kids to Help Them Regulate Emotions and Reduce Stress

Mindfulness encourages us to pay attention to the present moment; it means being aware of our thoughts, feelings, and our environment. When we practice mindfulness, we are helping ourselves to regulate emotions and reduce stress. However, this can be a difficult skill to master, especially for children! Here are some fun and creative ways to practice mindfulness and help your child stay present throughout the day. 

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DIY Creative Stress-Relief Crafts for Children: Calm Jar for Reducing Stress

Have you ever noticed that when your child is upset, stressed, or frustrated, it can seem impossible for them to control their behaviors and reactions? You may also notice that their breathing is fast and short and that their heart rate has sped up too. The calm jar is one tool that we can use to help kids practice mindfulness, the ability to calm down and focus on what is going through their mind, body, and environment. This is an excellent (and fun!) craft for you and your child to make together. 

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Anxiety, Depression, Parenting, Resources Melissa Wesner Anxiety, Depression, Parenting, Resources Melissa Wesner

Post-Weaning Depression and Its Effects on a New Mom's Mental Health

Shortly after I started weaning my toddler, sadness engulfed me. I felt like melted ice cream, honestly. This led me down a rabbit hole of reading. I am sure that you are joining me in my surprise that as a therapist, a former educator, and a mother who reads every parenting article I can get my hands on, I had never heard of post-weaning depression. Well, I think that the answer is two-fold. From what I can gather, there is limited research on post-weaning depression. This blog is centered on raising awareness on post-weaning depression, along with an encouragement for greater societal attention and research.

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Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources, Anxiety Melissa Wesner Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources, Anxiety Melissa Wesner

Supporting Your Child with ADHD Through Promoting Self-Esteem and Capability

Supporting your child in effectively managing their symptoms of ADHD, while celebrating them and accepting them for all that they are, will aid long term success and elevated self-esteem. This will promote self-confidence, self-acceptance, and assurance that can handle all that life throws their way. 

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How to Best Support Your Highly Sensitive Child

“I think she/he is just too sensitive,” some parents complain. Indeed, some children are more sensitive than others. But does high sensitivity only bring trouble? Who gets to decide what is the right amount of sensitivity and what is too much? Those difficult questions take us into an important research area–HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). If you get frustrated with yourself or/and your child over their high sensitivity, this article is going to help you learn about highly sensitive people and how to best support your child.

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Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources, Anxiety Melissa Wesner Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources, Anxiety Melissa Wesner

Ten Children's Books for Your Anxious Elementary Schooler That Promote Coping Skills

Coping skills are adaptive actions that people take to bring themselves comfort and control.

Many of the books listed feature coping skills being taught within therapy sessions. These include the utilization of breath, mindfulness, mindset reframing, utilizing support systems, and acknowledging worry rather than pushing it away.

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Changes You Can Make at Home to Help Support Your Child While in Therapy

This post is a valuable resource to parents looking to make changes at home to best support their children while in therapy and beyond. Many of the recommendations that are discussed in this blog are overarching routines and practices that can be beneficial for all children, no matter the current difficulties that they are experiencing. Please keep in mind how valuable it is to have open communication with your child’s therapist, identifying any stressors that may be affecting your household, so that you may receive additional individualized, tailored advice.

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Parenting, Children & Teens, Anxiety Melissa Wesner Parenting, Children & Teens, Anxiety Melissa Wesner

Signs and Symptoms That Indicate That Your Child May Be Experiencing Anxiety

Are you worried that your child is too worried? That in and of itself may suggest that scheduling an appointment with a children’s therapist is not a bad idea, but if you are still on the fence please read on. Everyone worries! Research suggests that in part, it’s evolutionary, a function of survival. As our environmental factors have changed in time, so have our reasons for anxiety. Anxiety stems from biological factors, psychological factors such as temperament, and environmental factors. The question is: when does worrying become more harmful than helpful?

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Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources Melissa Wesner Parenting, Children & Teens, Resources Melissa Wesner

How to Improve Your Child or Adolescent’s Sleep

A good night’s sleep helps the body and mind recharge; improving mood, increasing one’s ability to concentrate and think clearly. It has been proven to lower anxiety levels, elevate mood, and improve overall functioning. As one can imagine, better relationships are formed due to clear minds and elevated moods. So how is it achieved? Here are some tips that I have found in research and within my experience in working with children and adolescents.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Therapy for Children and Adolescents

This post is for the parents on the edge, wondering if their child would benefit from therapy and what therapy for children and adolescents even looks like. I hope that this article will answer any questions that you may have, keeping in mind that every child and family is unique and should you need a more personalized conversation, please call our office for a more tailored conversation. 

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Parenting, Children & Teens, Online Counseling Melissa Wesner Parenting, Children & Teens, Online Counseling Melissa Wesner

How Do I Know if Online Therapy (Telehealth) is Right for My Child?

With the increased access to telehealth services, parents now have more options available to them when looking for a mental health provider to work with their child. Telehealth, however, won’t necessarily be a good fit for everyone.  Within this post I hope to address any questions you may have in determining whether telehealth services will best meet the needs of your child. 

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What Every Child and Adolescent Therapist Wants Parents & Caregivers to Know

Successful child therapy asks for a mixture of trusting your child to make best use of time within the privacy of sessions, while communicating and collaborating with their therapist to nudge the use of coping skills and behavior changes outside of sessions. It is a unique balance!

This post encapsulates how valuable your role can be within your child’s time in therapy, while also spotlighting the autonomy your child can hold within their own treatment.

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How to Effectively Communicate with Your Child’s Mental Health Therapist

As parents, we are accustomed to frequent communication for our children’s teachers. Getting recommendations for how to do our part at home to help them become independent readers, well-practiced musicians, competitive athletes, etc. The same level of communication is important in maximizing your child’s time within therapy as well. They are your world, we know! You are seeking therapeutic services for them because you want to strengthen their emotional well-being, see them achieve their goals, and grow up to be healthy, well-rounded individuals!

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Parents' Communication Toolkit: Nonverbals, It's All in How You Say It

This blog will dive into non-verbal communication, or, body language, and the way this can enhance or detract from communication with your child. Awareness around the different elements of non-verbal communication can help set a conversation up for success and build a sense of closeness in a relationship. Strategic use of non-verbals can also enhance the effectiveness of communication and support memory and comprehension.

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Parents’ Communication Toolkit: Paraverbals, It’s All in How You Say It

The phrase “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it'' has become a cliche at this point, but for good reason! There are many factors outside of the actual words being spoken that affect how communication is received. This blog will focus on paraverbal communication.

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Parents’ Communication Toolkit: Listening Skills to Help Cultivate a Healthy Connection with Your Child

When you are engaged in communication with someone, you are either receiving information or sharing information. Different situations call for different balancing of these roles. Parenting often focuses on the sending, or speaking, role. In the course of giving directions and reminders, and sharing information we can unconsciously dominate the conversational space. Children are often relegated to the receiving, or listening, role. It is incredibly impactful when you create opportunities for your child to express themselves while offering yourself as an active listener.

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Parents’ Communication Toolkit: How to Use Questions to Build Engagement & Improve Communication

How often are you met with a blank stare after asking your child how their day was? Are you tired of getting shrugged off when you ask questions, or knowing you’ve lost their attention when you’re trying to check-in? A desire for connection is at the heart of parent/child relationships, but dysfunctional communication can make us feel further apart than ever. To help close that gap and make you feel more empowered as parents, we’re going to share different strategies to help you build your communication toolkit.

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