As therapists, it is easy to focus on helping others navigate and manage stress, but what would we tell our younger selves if we had the chance? Many of us do not always have the correct tools, awareness, or language we have now to manage our mental health. We asked our team of Maryland-based clinicians to reflect on the lessons they have learned over the years and the advice they would give their younger selves about managing stress, and how they recognize when it is time to reach out for support.

This might be a surprise to some, but therapists also feel stressed out and need a breather sometimes. To learn more about how our team at LifeSpring takes care of their own mental health, I asked them to share their favorite ways to unwind and small daily rituals that help them reset after a long day. Here is what some of them had to say!

In 1965, Julie Andrews graced the silver screen, announcing that the hills were alive with the sound of music. In 1975, the Doobie Brothers encouraged us to listen to music all the time. And in 2007, Rihanna made one simple request: please, don't stop the music. No matter the period of time, music remains a universal panacea for many of us. But what makes music so powerful, and how can we utilize music to improve our mental health?

News headlines can be stressful in general. Having said that, the non-stop alerts about lay offs, fiscal cuts, human rights violations, and the next group of people being targeted with harmful legislative changes that we’ve been seeing lately are sure to create feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, and overwhelm.

Distraction is a skill that can be used, NOT to solve our issues but, to give us time to calm ourselves. By allowing our intense emotions to lessen over time, we can have more control and power in our lives. DBT uses an A.C.C.E.P.T.S model. While my last post focused on the outdoors, this one highlights indoor activities in Baltimore where you can apply this model. 

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a skills based model that teaches tools to help people with many struggles. These range from depression, anxiety, and anger. One central concept is self-soothing. While these techniques aren’t the solution to difficult feelings, they can help serve as tools in your tool box. I often tell my clients we want as many tools as we can! I describe self soothing and free ways to engage locally in the Baltimore area. 

Over the years, countless clients have shared how social media affects their lives and their thoughts about taking a break from it. Many people face similar stressors tied to technology and social media use, and recently, there’s been a growing conversation around unplugging—but for different reasons than before. In this blog, we’ll explore the most common reasons people consider digital detoxes and offer tailored strategies to help you address the specific challenges you may be facing.

I remember growing up and being excited for holidays. My mom was always so careful to make sure my brother and I had everything we wanted, all carefully wrapped in perfect bows under the tree. Holidays growing up were a special time where we could come together as a family and share in the love, joy, hope  and peace the season brings. I look back fondly over the childhood memories of Thanksgiving and Christmas, but recently, I’ve noticed a crack in the rose colored glasses I’ve fought hard to protect. 

You might think back to a new coping skill and think…

• “What were the steps, again?” 

• “Was I supposed to breathe before counting or count while breathing?” 

• “What was that really clever affirmation that my therapist and I came up with that I was supposed to remember?” 

• “Okay, I’m doing what we did in session, but it isn’t working. I feel the same!”

If this scenario does not sound familiar, that may be great! You may successfully use coping skills. However, learning to “troubleshoot” coping skills is a valuable skill. Even when you have an entire toolbox with working equipment, you need to be able to know how to problem solve if that needed tool isn’t working as well that day. 

Who do you want to be? The question sounds large and intimidating because suddenly, you find yourself thinking of celebrities, role models, and superheroes who you would like to look in the mirror and see staring back at you. But, the question is not if you could be anyone, who would you be? It is, who do you want to be as yourself?

Our minds do so much for us every minute of every day. They are our internal hard drive, protector, and a never-ending storyteller. So, while our minds can be the number one helper in perceiving, interpreting, and engaging with the world, they can also be our number one bully when we perceive, interpret, and engage with our world through the lens of our less helpful thoughts.

How many times have you had a similar thought: “I want to  ____, but I am ____.”

Depending on how you would fill in the blanks, the thought sounds like a very short story. Maybe your short story started with a desire or a hope, but the second blank ended the story before the story began. The reason for this is the key word: “but.” 

A dialectic is when two oppositional concepts can be true and simultaneously exist in the same space. When we use “but” in a thought, we automatically allow one oppositional concept to dominate. 

The idea of using mindfulness anywhere and anytime may sound somewhat strange. Using mindfulness while in line at the grocery store or in the middle of a presentation may seem pretty far-fetched, but with three letters, it is less far-fetched than you might think!

ACE stands for acknowledging your emotion(s), connecting with your body, and engaging with your surroundings. It is at the root of every mindfulness exercise, and you already have all the tools you need to use it effectively. 

If I were to ask you to name all of the things that were wrong with you, I would bet that you would have a fairly easy time rattling off an entire list of all of the negative thoughts you have about yourself.. But what if I asked you to name the things that are right with you? Would this list be just as easy to create? When we shift our focus to understanding and building upon our strengths and natural qualities, it can create a mindset of resiliency, positivity, and confidence that allows individuals to be the makers of their own change. It is for this reason that exploring your personal strengths in therapy may be the key to unlocking your full potential. 

Whether you’re talking to a coach or a counselor, both will agree that your mindset matters.  We may use different language to discuss this topic, but the way you think and talk to yourself will impact your business and your mental health and emotional well-being. If you’re an entrepreneur who knows that you get caught up in unhelpful ways of thinking, you’re in the right spot!

While entrepreneurship can be an empowering and exciting experience, it can also be incredibly stressful.  In order to maintain one’s well-being and manage the ongoing stressors that will inevitably arise, business owners need to have a few handy stress management tools in their back pockets. Here are some of my favorites. 

Busy entrepreneurs who are interested in mindfulness might be concerned about having one more thing to do each day. Mindfulness, however, is a practice that we can integrate into our day. It’s not a task that requires us to set aside additional time. In fact, applying mindfulness concepts and practices can help us to be more calm, present, and focused as we go about our day. Let's take a look at how busy entrepreneurs can utilize these concepts throughout the day.

If you’re familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman’s Book on The 5 Love Languages, then you know just how impactful it can be when you show someone love according to their own love language.  You might also be aware of how impactful it can be when someone shows YOU love according to YOUR love language.  As we enter into this gift-giving holiday season, it’s worth keeping our friends and family members’ love languages in mind, so we can give a gift that TRULY hits the spot! 

When we fail to recognize another person’s love language in our gift-giving, we can miss the mark, despite making a genuine effort to show thoughtfulness and care.  When we fail to give a gift according to someone’s love language, the gift recipient can be left feeling overlooked and unappreciated.  In this blog, I’ll be sharing some gift giving mistakes from my own life (or others I know), so you can avoid making them this holiday season! 

Mindfulness encourages us to pay attention to the present moment; it means being aware of our thoughts, feelings, and our environment. When we practice mindfulness, we are helping ourselves to regulate emotions and reduce stress. However, this can be a difficult skill to master, especially for children! Here are some fun and creative ways to practice mindfulness and help your child stay present throughout the day.