Like many Evangelical teens growing up in the 90s, I was told my body was a temple and that we were all born inherently evil. I was told to cover up and dress in modest clothing to protect the minds of boys and men and that marriage was solely meant for one man and one woman. We were the gatekeepers for boys and men in the church. If they started having impure thoughts about us, it was our fault. Throughout my research, I continue to see similar stories and lived experiences to my own. I see myself in all of the stories shared by women across the US and the world who were victims of purity culture. 

Emma Cieslik describes purity culture as “...a systemic set of ideologies enforced by religious communities through educational programming and events that place the brunt of sexual responsibility on young men and women” (2022). Both men and women are taught to suppress sexual urges starting at young ages. Purity culture is not gender specific. Both lead to warped beliefs that continue to impact how both men and women view relationships, marriage and sex.

To some degree, each of us are yearning to seize the right moment. We want to feel validated; we want to be happy, and we want our lives to have meaning. However, when studying self-identity, I have come to understand that it is not so much of what I think about myself as much as it is about how I feel about myself.

Dealing with anxiety can be tricky. When anxiety starts taking over our lives, we don’t always know where to begin. Figuring out how to cope with anxious or fearful thoughts or feelings may simply involve gaining insight. If you are a practicing Christian, you may have noticed just how many times anxiety is addressed in the Bible. The Bible is full of rich wisdom to hold onto, that can help us address anxiety and pursue peace from a spiritual angle. Please feel encouraged to read along with some of these passages from Scripture, and take as much time as you need to pause and think about what the author is trying to communicate about anxiety, worry, and peace.

If you’re human, you have probably felt exhausted before. You have probably had a moment, day, or season when you’ve felt there is way too much on your plate, and you cannot carry it any longer. Maybe you ended up skipping plans you originally looked forward to, called out from work, or missed a night or two of quality sleep. You were probably experiencing burnout, which is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive, prolonged stress. It happens when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands.

The church can be an important place for supporting people’s spiritual and social needs.  Whether or not the church is a positive place for supporting mental health just depends on the church you’re attending and the messages they’re conveying, verbally or nonverbally.  There are church communities that send messages that discourage people from seeking the mental health treatment they need, and there are others who actively support it. 

I’m including two lists for you to review.  One highlights the unhealthy messages often received about mental health in the church, and the other shows a more positive approach to addressing mental health in the church. These lists have been compiled through my own experiences and those of my clients. 

Growing up in the church, I heard people talk about “the old days,” when people thought it was a lack of faith if you went to see the doctor. Today, many of us would find a statement like that odd and outdated. Unfortunately, I have come to believe that we have not come so far after all. Although we no longer hear people describe seeing a primary care doctor as showing lack of faith, this message does persist when it comes to mental health care.

Ever feel like the odd man out? Dancing to the beat of a different drum? That’s how some of us start to feel once fall begins turning into winter. Suddenly it feels like the whole world is busy talking about decking the halls with boughs of holly, jingle bells and open sleighs, and letting it snow when dreaming of a white Christmas. So many folks out there just assume we’re all part of the gift-buying, carol-singing, glitzy- holiday décor collectors in the frenzied countdown to the end of December. Indeed, there’s no way to escape the season, whether looking online, going to a store, or joining in the water-cooler talk at work.