Gardening and relationships probably aren’t words that typically go together, but if you’ve fallen into certain relationship traps, you just might need to hear this. I talk to so many people who desperately want to have a somebody, but when we start talking about the people in their lives, it becomes abundantly clear that these individuals are not their ideal partners.  One of the things that we ultimately end up talking about is needing to weed their garden. So let’s get started to see if you too have fallen into this same trap and need to do some weeding. 

Although “tis the season to be jolly,” the arrival of the holiday season can be poignantly sad and difficult for those who have experienced grief or loss. Holidays are a time rich in memories and rituals, and the contrast of the present to the past can be overwhelming. For many, things just aren’t the same anymore, hearts aren’t into planning all that needs to be done, and there is an overall feeling of wanting to fast-forward through this time period.

Ever feel like the odd man out? Dancing to the beat of a different drum? That’s how some of us start to feel once fall begins turning into winter. Suddenly it feels like the whole world is busy talking about decking the halls with boughs of holly, jingle bells and open sleighs, and letting it snow when dreaming of a white Christmas. So many folks out there just assume we’re all part of the gift-buying, carol-singing, glitzy- holiday décor collectors in the frenzied countdown to the end of December. Indeed, there’s no way to escape the season, whether looking online, going to a store, or joining in the water-cooler talk at work.

Around this time of year, many of my clients come to me for help with managing the stresses that come along with the Thanksgiving holiday. In the spirit of mindfulness, I encourage my clients to examine and challenge their beliefs (and accompanying behaviors) that may be making the holiday less healthy or more stressful. I have noticed two reoccurring automatic assumptions related to Thanksgiving that I’d like to share, along with mindfulness-based recommendations that I offer my clients to help make this a happier and healthier holiday.

This past September, LifeSpring Counseling Services facilitated our 2nd cultural immersion workshop in Mexico for mental health providers. Providing culturally-informed counseling services is required by our code of ethics, but many times mental health providers are left to learn about cultural competence in the classroom. Melissa Wesner, LCPC and Owner of LifeSpring Counseling Services decided it was time to take providers outside of the classroom to achieve these goals with first-hand experience.

Sometimes we crave creature comforts, and often this means comfort foods because they provide psychological comfort and are often associated with positive memories from our life. It got me thinking about chicken pot pie. I know you must be wondering “why on earth chicken pot pie?”. Simple....because who among us doesn’t need to feel encapsulated or protected at times by a thick shell? I often use this analogy with my clients when we talk about trauma and grief, anxiety and depression.