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Mental Health Stigma in the South Asian Community: A South Asian Therapist’s Personal Experience & Tips on How to Talk to Your Parents About Mental Health

Growing up, it was very difficult for me to speak to my parents about mental health. Everytime, they saw me sad, upset or depressed. They would default to “Oh you will be fine.  Let's go out for dinner. It will make you feel better.” But in reality I wasn't really “ok.” As a therapist, it has been my job to help them understand the importance of mental health. Here, I will talk about 3 tips on how you can speak with your South Asian parents about mental health. 

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Internships, College Students, Resources Melissa Wesner Internships, College Students, Resources Melissa Wesner

Top Reasons to Do Your Internship at LifeSpring Counseling Services

Choosing an internship site is an important decision. The experience you get and the site you choose have the potential to significantly impact your future directions, career opportunities, and skills. You want to choose a site that will give you opportunities that are in alignment with your interests and areas of desired growth. Here’s hoping that this will provide you with the guidance you need to make thoughtful decisions about internship opportunities that have the potential to greatly impact your future.

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如何应对说外语带来的焦虑?

手心出汗、心跳加速、大脑中却一片空白……很多人在说外语时都有这些紧张不安的表现。尤其是当你忽然被提问,一瞬间无论怎么搜肠刮肚,也找不到合适的词表达。也许你眼前的人正一脸困惑,而你则感到颜面尽失……

对大多数人来说,用母语交流就像吃饭睡觉一样轻而易举,而相比之下,用外语来沟通,真的更费脑子——除了要费尽心思寻找合适的表达方式,还要克服心理上的焦虑。这个焦虑有个专门的词,叫“外语焦虑”(foreign language anxiety,简称FLA)。

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How to Cope with Foreign Language Anxiety as a Non-Native English Speaker

Sweaty hands, racing heartbeat, mind going blank, uneasy, nervous, embarrassed… If you speak English as a second language, the above might not sound unfamiliar to you, especially if you are caught on the spot, struggling to figure out what words to use to save your face. Nevertheless, the person in front of you gets more and more confused…

While speaking one's native language seems so natural and easy, trying to command a foreign language requires extra mental resources — finding the right words and calming foreign language anxiety (FLA).

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Brainspotting, International Clients Melissa Wesner Brainspotting, International Clients Melissa Wesner

Brainspotting with Asian American Clients: Common Challenges and How to Address Them

As a Chinese therapist, I understand how it can be difficult to share our emotions with our family or to be emotionally vulnerable with our therapist. When we start therapy, we talk about what has been going on in life, what we have experienced, and ways to manage our feelings. When I introduce Brainspotting to my Asian American clients, many seem interested in the modality.  However when these individuals try to utilize the technique, many find it hard to connect with their own body or to feel their emotions…

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Anxiety, College Students, Resources Melissa Wesner Anxiety, College Students, Resources Melissa Wesner

How to Effectively Prepare For Final Exams as a Stressed College Student

College finals are an extremely stressful period of time. Final exams can be daunting, given the culmination of a semester’s worth of information. Multiple exams can add to the stress of finishing a semester. How you prepare for finals can have an impact on how you make it through them. Having a game plan and strategy for your finals can make a difference in how they go. If you are looking for some guidance to approach your finals exams, then keep reading!

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College Students, International Clients Melissa Wesner College Students, International Clients Melissa Wesner

心理咨询师给留学生的10个建议

留学生活往往比我们当初想象的要难,是否有时候感到远在大洋彼岸的父母无法理解自己?是否有很多压力都无法和身边朋友提及?生活中碰到了各种困难常常感到委屈?俗话说,心病还需心药医,作为华人心理咨询师,在此给你10个非常有效的建议。

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College Students, International Clients Melissa Wesner College Students, International Clients Melissa Wesner

10 Strategies for Helping You Adjust to Life as an International Student

Studying abroad can be harder than we think, sometimes we may think that our family and friends might not understand the situation we are living in, and it’s hard to convey these thoughts and feelings to them accurately. Mental health is as essential as your physical health, and needs to be cared for. When you are feeling sick, you may want to rest. If you  are having any concerns about your health, you consult with a doctor. Perhaps you can’t fall asleep because you’re stressing about an exam, feeling depressed because of homesickness, and experience lowered energy which is keeping you from enjoying life. These are all symptoms to be mindful of, and it’s important to know that there are solutions for those concerns.

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